11.14.2009

Played

Alright, I know I've been a little MIA lately, but I've been dealing with some personal issues that I will write about another time. Let's just say my living situation has been horrible as of late, and I hope to get my life back sometime in the near future.


Over the course of dealing with the living situation from hell, I'd been talking to that cute graphic designer, CJ, that I met on POF. We had a TON in common: music, family values, sense of humour, and art, obviously. We sent these crazy long e-mails back and forth on a daily basis, asking each other tons of questions, and I honestly began to feel something of a connection with him. After a week of e-mailing, I gave him my phone number and he called me from his office just as I got home from work. He had this really hot deep voice and we had an awesome conversation, and talked about meeting up the next week. We continued communicating via e-mail, and I discovered that CJ was a cancer survivor (colon cancer; went through chemo and everything) and used to be a speed skater, but had to quit due to a back injury. He also couldn't drive because his depth perception was fucked up in one eye, and this was the only strike against him. Granted, I don't currently own a license or know how to drive, but I have plans to in the future. I don't imagine I'll live in Toronto forever, and I'm not sure how a relationship would work out long-term if only one person does the driving. However, I was willing to take the chance and see where things went, since we clicked so well.


Our plans to meet up fell through due to the issues I was going through, so we postponed until the next week. CJ called me nearly every night around six, and I really started to like him. It was nice; it had been so long since I'd felt that way about anyone. He was really funny (used to do standup comedy), and told me that he'd never connected with someone like he was connecting with me. He would tell me how pretty he thought I was, and was confident that we would really hit it off in person.


This Tuesday, we were supposed to meet at a downtown bar around 6pm. I had fallen asleep on my couch and ran around like a crazy person to get ready in time. Just as I was about to run out the door, I saw that I had missed a few calls, and upon checking my voicemail, found out that he had been given a last minute project at work, and couldn't meet up with me. I was disappointed, but couldn't fault him for it, as that happens to me at work all the time. He called me back and we decided that next week would be better. CJ sent me a message the following morning:


First off, I want to apologize for last night.  I so so wanted to meet you, very badly.  Not to sound desparate or anything (and I hope I don't) when I say that.  Its just, its been awhile for me since I had a connection with anything.  And I feel a connection with you.  Quite a few connections and I do not want to lose that.  I do not want to miss out on what may be something wicked for both of us?  I haven't check PoF in a while.  The poeple that mesasge me really do not hold my attention, I like just talkin to you I guess.   And I do not want you to think I am jealous or anything, because I am not.  If you are talkin to others thats great and all that.  I just don't want to miss out on something and miss my window before someone else may come in and sweep you off your feet before I do.  Does this make any sense?  God I am rambling.  I have had like 4 hours sleep last night.   I think you are really awesome, really funny, and as an added bonus I think you are fucking hot.  Seriously.  It takes a while for me to open up to people, but with you I found it really easily.  And to me, thats pretty big.  When it comes to the online thing, I dunno.  Usually you are nervous and what not, but with you I am not.  It feels like we known each other for a longer time then we have spoken.  Though, I know 5 mins before we meet I will be nervous.  Not for me not liking you, but for you not liking me for whatever reason (just my self conscious thing coming out).  I am so rambling this morning.  Mushy and rambling do not go together.  At all.


We continued to e-mail back and forth for the rest of the week, right up until I sent him a message as I was leaving work tonight. I had to pick up some groceries on the way home, and realized when I got in the door that I hadn't received a call from him, which was unusual. I sat down to check my e-mail, saw a reply from him, and clicked on it. To my horror, this is what it said:


This is the truth of the situation.


My name is Jen. I'm (was) CJ's fiancee. He's lying to you. I hacked into this email address and caught him cheating on me (again!). I just want you to know the truth because I sure as hell haven't been getting it from him. You are one of many women he has been emailing over the past couple of months after picking them up on Craigslist or other sites.


I really am sorry that he's been wasting your time. Good luck finding someone that treats you better.


Jen


Holy. fucking. shit. I couldn't even breathe, I was so shocked. For a moment, I considered the possibility that this was some crazy ex-girlfriend of his, and then the puzzle pieces started to fall into place, like how he always called me from work, never at night, and never on the weekend. He said he was using a work laptop and couldn't add me to MSN. He always wanted to schedule our meeting right after work, never later at night. He told me he hated text messaging. He always mentioned hanging out at my place, never his.


As I was analyzing the horror of the situation, I received another e-mail:


Here's his chats with another girl, FYI


lol!  I've got some stuff going on for the next week and a half-ish...Sometime after that?  


Date: Mon, 2 Nov 2009 4:40pm
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


Hey!  So I'm not sure what happened but I don't like to leave things "unfinished"...I just wanted to say that it was great meeting you and that you seem like a really great guy!  I wish you all the best, take care!


Date: Mon, 2 Nov 2009 10:36 pm
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


It was my fault.  You asked me about asians or something.  I remember that, I put the email in my sent folder and not drafts to write you later.


Doh.


I am sorry.


How much points do I lose for this?


Date: Mon, 2 Nov 2009 11:49 pm
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


Well I'm not gonna lie.  Points wise, you're gonna take a substantial hit.  But not to worry, I'm sure you can come back.


Halloween was awesome!...Only the best Halloween ever!!!  Did you have a good time?!


Oh and by the way...I saw your mysterious Nestle Crunch chocolate bar...It really does exist!  I'm sorry.  I was kind of doubting you.  But never again!  :)


Date: Tues, 3 Nov 2009 8:27 am
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


What did you dress up as? Do you have any pics?
And how can I make up these points? Just sat how?


And never doubt me.
I always speak the truth!


Date: Tues, 3 Nov 2009 1:45 pm
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


I went as a doctor!  And I can't even tell you how quickly the h1n1 comments got old!  You know, even though we took a camera with us...For some reason we took pictures with strangers using their cameras!  So we ended up with none.  This makes me very sad because I can't scrapbook our night!  Oh no no no.  I can't tell you how you can earn points back...You have to use your imagination and think of something point worthy on your own :)


Date: Tues, 3 Nov 2009 9:40 pm
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


Imagination eh? Oh, I have plenty of that my dear *winks  I imagined kiss that neck of yours a few times, actually lol


To much info?


Date: Tues, 3 Nov 2009 10:52 pm
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


LOL!  Too much info?...Probably not considering I've pictured kissing you with it snowing.  Speaking of kissing, I just watched "Pretty Woman"...Best kiss EVER!  When they finally kiss on the lips that is :)


Date: Wed, 4 Nov 2009 6:08 am
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


Ooooh..have you pictured me kissing you other ways? lol


I agree, thats a great kiss...


Here is a question for ya:
Top 5 places on a guy you like to kiss and Top 5 places you like a guy to kiss you...


Date: Wed, 4 Nov 2009 7:22 am
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


Okay, here goes!  On a guy - lips, neck, shoulders, chest and balls!  Oh and I know you can't exactly "kiss" the earlobe but I really feel that I need to throw that one into the mix as well :)  On me - forehead, lips, neck, inside of my wrist, arch of my foot!  My turn, my turn!  Favorite part of sex?  Favoite position?  Have you ever sent a naughty text that backfired?  Would you cheat if you knew your partner would never find out?


Date: Wed, 4 Nov 2009 1:10 pm
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


you:
Neck, Lips, between the tits (as I press them into my cheeks), waist line, and clit).


Me:
collar bone, lips, back of my neck, down my spine, inner thighs


Fav. part of sex?
Turning you on.  I love the noises a woman makes when you turn her on, be it kissing her neck to caressing a nipple.  The little sighs, moans, intake of breath, etc..


Position?
As much as I love doggie for just the pure animalistic fucking, I love a woman on top.  I love playing with her tits and such as she rides me.  I am a boob guy after all.  Seriously, you squating/straddling me as I sit crosslegged under you, tits in my face as you grip my shoulders, thats fucking hot.


Backfire?
Yep.  I have.  And its the last time I txt anything, I hate txting to begin with but yeah, I sent a pic of "me" to the wrong person.  Whoops.  They enjoyed it, but they were not supposed to see that part of me lol


Cheat?
I never never been in that situation, so I dunno.  If I was lookin for sex elsewhere while with someone, then I am obviously not happy.  I dunno, I want to say no (I have never cheated ever) but I guess it all depends on the situation, ya know?


Same questions, I will think of more by the time you answer.


Date: Wed, 4 Nov 2009 4:57 pm
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


Favorite part of sex - orgasm.  And not just my own!  I think it's just knowing that someone can make you feel that good and bring you that much pleasure.  I also like the sounds, feelings, and looks.  Favorite position - definitely on top or from behind.  I think you can feel every single inch of a guy's cock in those positions more than any other position.  I looove texting!  And I'm happy to say that I've only had my (first ever!) cell phone for a short time so I haven't had a text backfire on me.  Would I ever cheat - no.  Because you're right, if I was looking elsewhere then I'm obviously not happy.  And I'd like to think that if I wanted to sleep around, I wouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.  Have a good night blue eyes!


Date: Wed, 4 Nov 2009 10:04 pm
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


What's your bedroom style? Dominant or equal oportunist? Giver or taker? Foreplay, do you like it?  Do you like going done on a guy?


you are lucky bout the nonbackfire yet.   I accidently sent someone a shot of my cock lol  Mind you, they loved it but it wasn't ment for them.   I do have a nice cock lol


Date: Thurs, 5 Nov 2009 5:50 am
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


lol!  I'm sure it made their day!  Did you know them or was it someone random?


Hmm...Depending on my mood I think I alternate between "i'm-enjoying-this-too-much-so-do-what-you-want to this-is-how-i-want-it-so-this-is-how-we're-going-to-do-it".  


Equal opportunist...I'm not into that dominant/submissive crap.  I'm going to be as involved as you are.  And if you think you're going to do something to me, you'd better be prepared and willing for it to happen to you as well.  Let me ask you this, have you ever tasted your own cum?  


I'm going with 50/50 on the giving and taking.  lol!  Did you ever watch Friends?!  That question just reminded me of when Joey was ordained to marry Monica and Chandler and he was practicing what he was going to say...Too funny!  


Absolutely!  Have you actually known someone that didn't?  Although I think I'd replace "like" with another word...Need, want, crave, desire...


At the risk of repeating myself, abso-friggin-lutely!


What, if anything, do you sleep in?  Are you a masturbater?  How often?  Do you own any porn?  Have you had anal sex before?  Have you had sex without a condom?  If you could take your virginity back from your first partner, would you?  Could you pee with a woman in the washroom at the same time?  Have you ever had a bisexual encounter before?


Date: Thurs, 5 Nov 2009 1:41 pm
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


What, if anything, do you sleep in?
-My body is always warm.  So I always sleep naked.  Always.  


Are you a masturbater?  How often?
-I masturbate at least three times a day.  Once when I get up, once before bed, all the times after that are just when I can.  Hell, I have done it in my office.  


Do you own any porn?
-I did have porn, and lost it on my old computer.  I enjoy porn.  Lately I have been watching pornhub.  I love watching the homemade stuff, because its far more realistic then the professional jobs.    


Have you had anal sex before?
-Yes I have.  My cock is thick so I have been told anal with me is painful lol  


Have you had sex without a condom?
-Yes.  With people I have dated for a long period of time.   Even still, I do get checked every month.  


If you could take your virginity back from your first partner, would you?
-Nope.  I really like my first time.  


Could you pee with a woman in the washroom at the same time?
-Yes.  If I had to pee, I am not gonna hold it lol  


Have you ever had a bisexual encounter before?


-nope, not my thing.


Have you ever sent a naughty pic to someone? Have you ever had phone sex?  Ever had a one night stand?  What are you fav. places to have sex other then the bedroom?


Date: Thurs, 5 Nov 2009 5:38 pm
Subject: Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


Ugh...I hate answering my own questions.  Mind you, you didn't say "same questions" so I'm thinking I could get away with it but probably not.


I enjoy sleeping naked!  Although the only time I've ever been able to enjoy it was when I had my own apartment.  I've always had some type of roommate(s) so I always thought it'd be better not to.


Shut up!!!  3 times?!  lol!  That's awesome.  Once a day usually does it for me although I aim for 3 or 4 orgasms and that pretty much gets me through to the next day. 


I don't own any but I've got quite a few payperview channels so it's there 24/7.  I like the gay porn.  lol!  That sounds awful...Not that I have a desire to watch my guy with another guy or anything!...I like the variety of men and their cocks.  And there isn't some ridiculous woman carrying on!  If I could mute the woman, I would.  Homemadeporn.com is waaay more of a turn on because they're real people!!!


No I haven't.  Not that I'm not curious and wouldn't mind trying it but it'd have to be with someone I'd known awhile, trusted and felt absolutely comfortable with.


Yes I have but only because we'd been together for years and years and I knew he wasn't the type to screw around.  I understand safety first and everything but I fucking hate condoms!


I wouldn't take my first time back either.


I don't have a problem peeing with another person in the washroom.


Once...During high school.  One of my best friends and I went up to my cottage one weekend...Had a little bit to drink and it happened.  And I think we even masturbated with a bottle of vodka...lol!


Anyways...I've been known to send a picture once or twice of the boobs.  Nothing too extreme because it'd be just my luck to get sent to the wrong person.  No, not really into phone sex.  I've never done it or anything but it just really doesn't seem like something that'd really do anything for me.  I've had every intention of having a one night stand but it never seems to work out that way...I usually end up dating the person.  Atleast for a little bit.  Hmm.  I like doing it in the family room...On a couch or recliner.  In the kitchen...On a chair.  In the bathroom...The shower or the bathtub!  I've even done it on a toilet.  Mind you the lid was down and no one was using it or anything!


I don't doubt that I could come up with some more questions for you but I'll let you answer your own and I'll catch up on Survivor :) 


Date: Thurs, 5 Nov 2009 11:23 pm
Subject: Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


I just got in from a night out...
I will answer all these in the morning...


I will ask you this, what are the chances of you sending me a pic of your tits? I would love to see them...
If you do, I will return with a pic of me...


Date: Fri, 6 Nov 2009 9:03 am
Subject: Re:Re:
From: otherGirl
To: CJ


Apparently pretty good.  Here you go...


Happy Friday! :)


Date: Fri, 6 Nov 2009 11:09 pm
Subject: Re:Re:
From: CJ
To: otherGirl


I really think we should meet.


I want to see those tits in person.


Please tell me your jaw is hanging on the floor, like mine was? This dude is the epitome of the term "Dirt Squirrel" (thank you, Angie!).


My mind has been reeling. If his fiancée had not sent me this e-mail, how far would things have gone? Was ANYTHING he said to me the truth? Is he going to contact me on Monday, with some bullshit story? And what the FUCK did I do to deserve this? I've always had walls up, but this leaves me even more cynical, bitter, and untrusting of any guy I talk to. I'm beginning to doubt that the proverbial "good guy" still exists.

4 comments :

  1. Oh my fuckin' shit!!! What a rat bastard....just give me five minutes with that dick-face shit monkey! If you need to grab a drink (or 8) you call me anytime lady. Thats just balls! GRR!

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  2. Angie5:09 PM

    Wow, Dirt Squirrel could not be more fitting...

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  3. Anonymous12:28 PM

    You and his fiancee should go out for drinks and darts. Bring his picture. Or just find him.

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  4. I'll admit, I was REALLY hoping that he would contact me via e-mail or phone the following Monday with some bullshit story, so I'd have some great follow-up material for you guys, but nada.

    He did, however, close his POF account on Monday morning.

    Here's hoping the fiancée kicked his pathetic ass to the curb.

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