Strike Two

So I called him Thursday night and he cited all these reasons as to why he was busy the past couple of days, and asked me to go to a movie with him the next evening. Everything seemed okay enough, but I could not shake this feeling that something was not quite right. Maybe I was confusing paranoia with intuition? Also, is it rude to be noisy while you're talking to someone on the phone? Our conversation went something like this:

Him: So, when are you leaving? (begins blending his apres-gym protein shake)
Him: (stops blender) When are you leaving? (starts blender)
Him: WHAT? (stops blender)
Me: Sunday.
Him: Oh really? I thought you were leaving sooner (gulps protein shake)
Me: No, Sunday to Sunday.
Him: So what do you have planned for tomorrow night? (banging noises)
Him: WHAT? (stops)
Me: What are you doing?
Him: Making my egg-white wrap (banging noises)
Me: Oh.
Him: WHAT?
Me: OH.

Fuck, that was irritating. It was irritating just to write about it. Anyways, so we agreed to go see Superman at the Paramount -- the IMAX show if I could make it downtown in time.

On Friday morning I remembered that I had made a hair appointment for 9am on Saturday morning, and I didn't want to worry about getting home very late at night or crashing at his place and having to wake up and get my ass back up to my neighbourhood at the crack of dawn. I sent him an e-mail asking him if he would mind seeing the movie at Yonge and Eglinton instead, and he was welcome to crash at my place if he felt so inclined. I didn't hear back from him, so on my way home I sent him a text message:

Redhead: Hey, did you get my e-mail?
PR Guy: I am responding now u still at work?
Redhead: Nope, I'm on the bus.
PR Guy: Bottom line tonight won't work. We will need to reschedule for sometime after your vacation.

WTF? First of all, I'm not a business transaction. I got to the subway station and called him to ask what was going on. He apologized, as he had completely forgotten that his friend from Peterborough had taken the night off of work weeks ago to come to Toronto. He thought that maybe him and I could catch a movie and then he could meet up with his friend, but he knew I had a lot to do to get ready for my vacation anyways. We talked for a few minutes and he apologized again, told me to call him next week when I have some time, and that was it.

When I got home, I checked my email. This was his message:

Hi Redhead:

Unfortunately, I don't think I am going to be able to swing that (coming up to Yonge and Eglinton). I made plans a couple weeks back to go out with my buddy from Peterborough tonight (I actually forgot about it). He called me last night and left me a message telling what time he is planning on arriving.

I feel bad for double booking tonight - I obviously wasn't thinking last night. My buddy actually booked time off work to come.

At first I thought I might have been able to catch a movie with you and meet up with my buddy after, but given your message I don't think that is going to work out. It looks like we are going to have to reschedule for sometime when you are back.

Sorry about the mix up. I will talk to you a little later.

PR Guy

I called Angie and she wasn't very impressed. I just spoke to my brother and neither is he. Consensus is: this is strike two (strike one was not calling for a few days). I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt, but my intuition is starting to scream at a deafening pitch.

Oh, and did I mention that he's still going on POF? Because he's on my favourites list, I can see the last time he logged in. I didn't go online for over a week because I was interested in pursuing things with him and him only, but from what I can tell, he's still checking POF every day. We've been seeing each other for over a month now, and I have no patience for what I have dubbed the 'Trade-Up Game' (guys keep a girl around while they continue to go online and hunt for something better).

I'm going to try and put all of this out of my mind while I'm on vacation next week -- I need a break from all this bullshit.


  1. Anonymous11:45 AM

    Maybe thats why you should try taking things a little more slow and not get caught up in these guys so quickly. It looks like if maybe you would have slowed down a bit you would know all this stuff before getting emotionally and physically involved with a guy who might be out for just for a quick f*!?k Guys can put on a pretty good game face when they want something then when they've gotten what they want, then they want to move on to the next conquest!!! Sorry to be harsh and I know not everyone will agree with me but have you tried taking it slow?? because apparently what you are doing is not working out for you. I hope this does work out but if not maybe look at what message you are sending to these guys!!!

  2. Anonymous9:50 PM

    Easier said than done.

    The only message that she's been sending is that she's interested in him. She hasn't been hiding the fact that she's looking for a serious relationship, so how can she be faulted for hoping for one?

    I'm assuming whoever wrote that is in a relationship and most likely forgets what it's like to be single, and quite possibly lonely. It sucks. So why shouldn't she put her heart on the line for somebody she thinks could make her happy?

    The reason it hasn't been working out in the past is because she hasn't found the right guy. Period.

  3. Anonymous4:12 PM

    Yes, I am in a relationship, but I remember ALL of my lonely nights and the feeling of not having someone it does suck, but what also sucks is going out with guys who take advantage of your loneliness. You get your hopes up and BOOM!!! another idiot. All I'm trying to say is that sometimes you have to take a look at yourself and know what you want. I know everyone thinks there needs to be "sex" right away,and it is a wonderful feeling to know someone wants you after a time of being single but isn't there always excitement at the beginning and a false sense of this guy is great, maybe getting to know these guys before will filter out the idiots and find the "right guy" I only want the best for Redhead and not to have to go through all of the hurt and frustration of being single because I have been there and it took me a long time to figure it all out